"With a Little Help from my Friends"
I want to share a statement I discovered a few years ago that has had an incredible impact on my personal development:
“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” – Jim Rohn
It’s true.. whether you like it or not. And it doesn’t mean the 5 people you want to / think you spend the most time with. If you’re spending 40 hours a week working directly with your terrible boss, you’re probably picking up some bad habits (and don’t even realize it).
When you identify the real 5 people you spend the most time with, I bet you can identify parts of yourself that are a direct result of these people: certain things you say, food you eat, how much you weigh, how much money you make. It’s scary. I know.
Then you also quickly realize that you absorb negative traits and characteristics from your friends as well. That upset me a little as I don’t like to think of myself being easily influenced by others, but I was picking up some bad habits.
So, as Jim Rohn and others have said, the best thing you can do to grow personally and professionally is to improve the people you surround yourself with. As a result, I have been making a conscious effort the last two years to surround myself with people who are going to make me better.
I recently took a step back in this department as a person who was a tremendously positive and inspiring influence on me will no longer be there. It sucks, but I look back on the good times with a smile, reflect on what I learned, and know that I am a better person because of this person’s influence.
Even though my 5 is now weaker, I must continue to improve in order to achieve my incredibly ambitious goals.
"If I am going to do or accomplish anything great, it is going to be with and because of other people" - Eben Pagan
Or as The Beatles so eloquently put it “I get by with a little help from my friends…”
P.S. I’m going skydiving for the first time ever today as I continue my journey to live life. If I don’t respond to your comments or put up a new post next Friday, you now know why…