Learn from your Haters

As a person who thrives on learning and improving, I love feedback. Sure, positive feedback is great, but I really enjoy critical feedback. Tell me where I can improve — I’m not asking you for feedback to boost my confidence.

Recently, however, I was informed that a well-respected person within the tech community had some rather not nice things to say about me behind my back. To be fair, I don’t know exactly what was said, but I heard this from a very trusted source who was in the room. Maybe this person would have said this to my face if I was there, maybe not. It doesn’t matter.

The point is, when I heard the story of what was said, I went through a range of emotions — first I was confused, then I was dejected, then I was angry, then I totally brushed it off like I normally do.

But then I realized this is the wrong approach. You can’t just totally blow off what you haters say. They are providing you with critical feedback. It may be a completely uninformed opinion, but it is still their point of view. They came to that conclusion based on something.

Regardless of how right or wrong they may be, you can learn from your haters. Try to think about what could have caused this person to feel the way they do. Then use it as fuel to prove them wrong and improve based on what you learned.

"First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, then you win"