Sandy, you ruined a lot of stuff — the Jersey Shore (a place a still call home even though I haven’t lived there in over 10 years), many of my friends’ homes, cars and everything they own, and so much of New York and New Jersey.

But I’m not mad. I’m actually thankful.

Honestly, thankful. Even though I still don’t have power, my home is unharmed, my family and friends are safe (although many are dealing with some major losses), and things are slowly trying to return to normal.

Many people cannot say the same. And my heart goes out to them.

I am thankful that all I lost is power. After a few days, you get use to no power. Sure I miss things like TV, a cold fridge with food, room temperature, a full tank of gas in my car, and controlling lights with a flick of a switch, but I’m over it. I know that there are people out there working around the clock trying to ensure that I get these luxuries back. And for that I am thankful.

I have seen so many people doing whatever they could to help friends, neighbors and even strangers. That makes me feel good on the inside. Maybe we can use this disaster as a rallying point to come just a little bit closer as a society, to sympathize with others, and to treat each other just a little bit nicer.

I know I’m being a crazy optimist here, but things like that would make a terrible disaster like this just a little less terrible.